Ok. So it looks like this blog is dead. No posts for a month. Jason and I have failed those four or five people out there who bother to read our ramblings. Forgive us, O faithful few. But I think we have some decent excuses. First of all, Jason and I both just graduated from seminary—Jason from Fuller and me from Duke. That means our lives were really busy for the past weeks. A good excuse, right?
If that’s not good enough, then I have another excuse that hopefully relieves me from your bitter gaze (but, Jason might not escape). Between my last post and this one I got married! On June 17th, Katie and I were married by my friend and mentor Ben Patterson at First Presbyterian Church in Ft. Collins, CO. It was a wonderful celebration. Jason posted some pictures here, and you can see a slideshow here.
There’s so much I can say about the ceremony and reception. My bride was beautiful. My groom’s men supplied needed support and laughs. Family and friends blessed us by traveling long distances to join in blessing Katie and my marriage. One of the deacon’s from our church in Chapel Hill came to the wedding with a blessing and a prayer from our congregation. Not only was it quite moving to hear Sandra read the blessing/prayer from our church back in North Carolina. But I loved the theology of marriage communicated in the blessing/prayer. Here’s the prayer part of it:
Most gracious God, we give you thanks for your tender love in sending us Jesus Christ, God with us, a child born of a Jewish mother, who revealed the way of the cross to be the way of new life. We pray that, through your grace, the marriage of Katie and Isaac will bear the marks of your self-giving love revealed in Jesus’ life and death, in order that you will make them worthy for the resurrection, and that others may see your love for the world displayed in their marriage. By the power of the Holy Spirit, pour out the abundance of your blessing upon this man and this woman, these companions on the way to eternal life. Defend them from every enemy. Lead them into all peace. Let their love for each other be a seal upon their hearts, a mantle about their shoulders, and a crown upon their foreheads. Bless them in their work and in their companionship; in their sleeping and in their waking; in their joys and in their sorrows; in their life and in their death. Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that banquet table where your saints feast for ever in your heavenly home; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who with you and the Holy Spirit lives and reigns, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.
If you’re looking for a wedding prayer, please feel free to use this one.
I also wanted to share our declaration of intent and vows. It’s mostly straight from the Mennonite Minister’s Manual, with some selective addditions from the Anglican Book of Common Prayer.
Declaration of intent:
To the groom:
Minister: Isaac, will you give yourself to Katie, to be her husband: to love her, comfort her, honor and protect her; and forsaking all others, be faithful to her so long as you both shall live?
Groom: I will.
To the bride:
Minister: Katie, will you give yourself to Isaac, to be his wife: to love him, comfort him, honor and protect him; and forsaking all others, to be faithful to him so long as you both shall live?
Bride: I will.
To the parents (parents stand):
Minister: Do you, parents of Isaac and Katie, give your blessing to this marriage?
Parents: We do.
To the gathered community (congregation stands):
Minister: Will you, as friends of Isaac and Katie, do all in your power to support and uphold this marriage?
Congregation: We will.
Groom: I, Isaac, take you, Katie, to be my wife. I promise before God and these friends to be your loving and faithful husband, to share with you in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, and to join with you so that together we may serve God and others, as long as we both shall live. This is my solemn vow.
Bride: I, Katie, take you, Isaac, to be my husband. I promise before God and these friends to be your loving and faithful wife, to share with you in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, and to join with you so that together we may serve God and others, as long as we both shall live. This is my solemn vow.
Groom: Katie, I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
Bride: Isaac, I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.